So, I was planning on doing a little rant on "kids these day" about how they seem to have no ability to balance and avoid their responsibilities then complain about how they suck and can't succeed all while never putting their full effort into anything. It's something I'm seeing on Tumblr a lot these days, probably because school is starting back up. So, I was going to rant because it drives me absolutely crazy, but I decided that instead of doing that it might be more helpful to try and discuss some things one can do to avoid being overwhelmed.
Step One:
Realize that everyone you know who has gone to school, done a job, or done whatever it is that you're overwhelmed about, has been exactly in your shoes. You are not special. You are not doing anythign someone else hasn't already done before you. You are not a pioneer who no one can relate to because you're out in some terra incognito. People, probably thousands of people, or possibly millions, have been where you are now. Unless you're the first person on Mars, you are not doing something many other people haven't already done.
Step Two:
Realize Step One, and look at the people around you. Identify who among them have done what you are doing. Talk to them. TALK TO THEM. Don't just say "I'm stressed out" or something like that. Talk to them and ask them specific questions. Say "I'm having a hard time with X, when you were doing X what did you do {in order to avoid whatever stress problem you are having}"? The people around you are wonderful resources. If you talk to them, ask them questions that lead you to solving problems that you're having, they will provide you with a lot of information. While they are doing that constantly remember step one. The second you forget step one you will start saying "well it's different for me, I have to do xyz" NO. It is not different for you. You are not exempt, you are not special re-read step one. Utilize the knowledge of those around you who have gone down this trail before. Don't ignore it simply because it's hard or not what you want to hear.
Step Three:
Plan ahead. Go over whatever it is that you have going on and plan for it well in advance. You see that you're having an exam or major project due somewhere in the semester? Start blocking time off now so that you can take care of it. You know there's a big event at work that is going to eat into your study time? Start making notes on a calendar so you can get ahead of your other work. The key to this is seeing where your time demands will be and planning other things around it so that you're never in a situation where you can't do everything you need to. You know that you're going to need money for a big expense, start saving it now. Example: The semester is going to come every single year at the same time and you know books are going to cost you a couple hundred dollars. Well, there are 52 weeks a year, if you take $10 a week and put it in your savings, you'll have $520 which may cover your books for the entire year. Planning ahead can save you expense of having to take out too many loans, or stress of having to figure out how to pay for something that you fully knew was coming.
Step Four:
Cut out distractions. This is a hard one, and if you can't do it through will power then there are apps that will help you lock out distractions for certain periods of time. If you need to study, DO NOT log onto social media. DO NOT turn on Netflix or the TV, DO NOT respond to texts or calls. Put your phone in airplane mode, stay off the Internet, keep the TV off and STUDY. A lot of people spend hours and hours studying but really they're just fucking off procrastinating. If they actually put all the distractions away and got right down to work they'd find that they had A TON more time to actually do things. One will find that breezing through the work means that you can actually go to a movie, hang out with friends, or if none of that is around then enjoy social media or games without that feeling of stress because you know you SHOULD be doing something else.
Step Five:
Prioritize. This is an important thing. You need to look at everything you have going on and prioritize them. For example, when I was in school I also had to pay the rent, food, etc. So I had to have a high priority to make enough money to actually live. If you're living at home or in a dorm this won't be as important so you can make study your priority. If you have a scholarship then obviously grades are a major priority. The point is that when you're looking at your life you need to put things in a proper order. You've got "Shit that MUST get done" "Shit that should get done" and "Shit that would be nice". Meeting your financial needs, meeting your academic needs are both in that MUST category. Everything else goes into the other categories. Sometimes this means making choices that you don't like such as forgoing social engagements, not buying that thing you want to buy but saving for books, a trip, a car, clothes, a game, music, movies, whatever it is you want to buy. If this is hard then set up a board and put the priorities up there, and when you're faced with a choice you can say "ok what category is this in?" I'll give you a hint: Hanging out with friends, playing games, social media, all are in that "it would be nice". I'm not going to lie, this is a period of life where you may not have a TON of free time to do all the things you want to. It will pass, and you are going to have to learn to prioritize and live with perhaps having to wait a week or two to do that thing you want to do.
Step Six:
Create a To Do list. The list of course would be prioritized because you need to focus on the most important tasks first. Yeah, you may have a quick little 15 minute assignment and you want to do it first because you don't want to do the other one that's more time consuming, but if it's the monster of a project that is going to be most important for your grade, then get to work on it first. It may take more time than you expect and it will be better to get it out of the way first and then allow you to focus on other things later. Keep the list up to date, and put everything you need to on the list.
Step Seven:
Take breaks. Get up and go outside for a walk. Do something active. Step away from your work for a couple of minutes. This does not mean going and watching TV, going on the internet or doing those things that distract you and then suck the time up and before you know it you've been "on break" for five hours. Move, drink some water, do something else for a few minutes. But set a timer so you don't over do it.
Step Eight:
Calm down. That's a vague thing that people say, so let me be more specific. NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO SOMEONE ELSE. There will always be someone that can do whatever you are doing better than you. It's safe to say you are not the world's top ANYTHING. That's not a negative thing, that's just pointing out that there will always be someone who did it better, faster, whatever. Don't compare your life to someone else, it's not the same and will never be the same. Just stop comparing. Don't say "Oh so and so did it and I can't I must suck!" or "So and so is getting by, what's wrong with me." You don't know what's going on inside someone else's life, so don't compare. Also, don't focus on the stress or the to do list. Focus on what you're doing and ignore everything else. Take it all in small chucks. I have to do this. I have to get THIS done. When it's done just worry about the next step. Once you have a plan just break it out into the pieces and don't worry about finishing it all, just worry about finishing what you are currently working on. It takes discipline, but focus on your present and ignore everything else. Ignore your past, ignore your future, ignore the things you could be doing, that you'd rather be doing, ignore it all except what you're doing now. Be in the moment and don't think about anything else. If you spend too much time dwelling on those things then you end up in this downward spiral.
Anyhow, that's just some tips. Perhaps I'll revisit.
Picture(s) of the Day:
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I tried to get a better picture but it's always hard because it's at an intersection and driving and whatnot. But this is a creepy statue of a family. You've got the mom, dad, and kid. But the creepy part is they are all naked, and the dad is holding the kid up in a way that looks like he balancing the kid on his business. It's weird.